Discussion Topic for April 6

Chastity and Orgasm control.

Love me, lock me, never let me cum! 

April 6 at 4:00 PM SLT 

Location SLURL: 

https://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Femdom%20Mystique/196/199/53

Facilitator:  Miss Winnie 

Discussion is in voice and text you do not need to speak in voice but you do need to hear what is being said.  

Chastity and orgasm control is an extremely popular topic. Both submissive men, women and sissies enjoy giving orgasm control to their mistresses and speaking for myself I enjoy controlling when and how my subs and slaves get off. So, this week we are deep diving into orgasm control, denial, and chastity.

• Dommes, not every D/s relationship involves orgasm control, but many do. Do you impose this on your subs and slaves? Why or why not? About orgasm control do you treat subs and slaves differently?
• As a sub or slave do you desire to have your orgasms controlled? Why or why not?

I used to say to a sub or slave who was willing to give me control of their orgasms only if they are locked in a device. "Why do you need that thing my word should be enough to have you control yourself."

• Dommes, do you believe that a chastity device is required for orgasm control or should your word and selected consequences be strong enough?
• For the subs and slaves do you feel you have to have the guardrails of a chastity device to comply with your mistress' desires for orgasm control or would you rather show your strength and dedication by going without?

Public display of chastity can be a powerful humiliation technique, represent a Dommes power over her sub or slave, for subs and slaves a symbol of dedication to your Mistress.

• Dommes, when your sub or slave is in chastity do you like to show it off publicly? Why?
• Subs and slaves when you are told to publicly display your chastity is that a turn on for you?

Orgasm control maybe used as behavior modification technique through denial and association with pleasure. For example, only allowing your sub or slave to orgasm when being pegged will lead to a powerful association with pegging and orgasm. This can lead to a sub or slave begging for pegging rather than orgasm by other means.

• Dommes, do you use orgasm control as a behavior modification technique? If so have you been satisfied with the result?
• Subs and slaves has your behavior and or desires been modified by orgasm control?

Often, we bridge the divide between SL and RL in our D/s activities.

• Dommes, do you require RL orgasm control from your subs and slaves? If so, how do you ensure compliance? For noncompliance do you impose RL punishment or SL punishment?
• Subs and slaves do you want Orgasm control / chastity in RL? Is it practical?
• Dommes and subs - do you use devices like:
• The Chronovault? https://www.dreamloverlabs.com/chronovault.php
• The Cellmate? https://www.amazon.com/CELLMATE-Controlled-Chastity-Device-Black/dp/B082VJ1QPS
• If yes are these devices worth it? Do you feel safe with them?

Any other thoughts regarding orgasm control and chastity?