The Hidden Door is a femdom BDSM community in SecondLife, a virtual, open world. We are a friendly, moderate protocol sim where women make the decisions. We enjoy the company of like-minded people who prefer female-led relationships and female BDSM dominants. We enjoy role play parties and adventures as well as private and public play in a variety of play areas. We celebrate the arts and nature.
Rules of The Hidden Door
We are a friendly, welcoming, moderate protocol femdom community.
◻ No male dominance. No men with dom titles, tags, markers, leashes, whips, etc.
◻ No findomming, escorting, or prostitution. No promoting these in profile or otherwise.
◻ No child avatars. We decide what is too young. Size, body shape, skin, AO, and behavior are all factors.
◻ No discrimination based on color, national origin, religion, sexual preferences, gender, disability, etc.
◻ Be honest, including in your profile, about your RL biological sex and gender.
◻ Everyone here is an adult. Act like it.
◻ Be nice. If you can't do that, be polite.
Submissives
◻ Call dommes "Miss" or another honorific.
◻ Ask in local before private messaging or IM'ing a domme.
◻ You may *politely* decline a domme's request. Don't be an ass about it.
◻ We welcomes submissives of all genders
◻ All males are submissives here
◻ Male switches are submissives here and may not switch.
◻ Trans women are welcome here. That includes TG female dommes.
Dommes
◻ Obtain consent before play. Submissives may politely decline.
◻ Don't humiliate, boss, bully, belittle, push, or harass a sub without their consent.
◻ Heed safe words. If you don't know what a safe word is, find out before you play.
◻ Don't play with or correct an owned sub without the owner's express consent.
◻ All submissive, including your owned submissive/s, must follow our rules while here.
◻ Male switches are submissives here and may not switch.
◻ Trans people are welcome here. That includes TG female dommes
◻ If you're unhappy with a sub's behavior, feel free to tell them.
But please don't try to domme, or correct, someone who's unlikely to follow. That's just embarrassing.
Women Switches
◻ Women switches: Choose a side of the leash for this sim.
◻ Are you a woman and not yet sure which side of the leash you prefer? That's ok. Just don't flip flop constantly.
Everyone
◻ No pushing, moving, boxing, harassing, griefing, or similar actions, without consent.
◻ No hunting including with meters, vampires (unless at a sponsored event).
◻ If you rezz an object here, pick it up when you leave.
◻ We are an English-speaking sim. Please use a translator if needed. English speakers: be gracious and thankful that others are attempting to speak your language.
◻ Don't promote or advertise (or badmouth) other femdom sims or events
Welcome!
P.S. A note about gender. Gender is a complicated thing. We understand that by asking people to be honest about their real life biological sex and gender, we are asking people to "out" themselves. We understand that presenting in SL as one's ideal self, including the gender one feels one truly is, is an important way for people on the TG spectrum to express themselves, even to try things out. At the same time, there are some people who feel very strongly that they only want to do adult activities with adults who present in SL as their same RL gender. They feel that requiring them to, for example, call a person "Miss" who may be "biologically male" in real life is forcing them to interact in a non-hetero way. Asking folks to be honest about RL sex and gender (as complicated as that is) is a compromise. Finally, a person who has had sex reassignment surgery is that new sex and need not reveal that they transitioned.
P.P.S. While you may think that biological sex and gender are uncomplicated or physiological, it's actually so much more complicated than that. For example, did you know that 1.7% of humans are born intersex? Here's an interesting twitter feed on the topic: